Life is Short.....

Today I am struck by how we somehow 'Feel" like we will live forever, and the truth of it all is...We won't...no one will....Over the last few days I have been touched by stories of others that are at the end of their life, by either age or illness, and how they would give anything to go back, have more time, share more with their loved ones and do MORE of everything....In one story, a man was asked if he know that he had ONE HOUR to live....who would he call, what would he say, what would then become the most important "things" in his life???? I contemplated all of those questions, today, and the truthful answer for me  is....ALL THAT WOULD MATTER CONTAINS ONLY TWO THINGS....Family and loved ones....When everything is ALL boiled down....nothing else DOES matter but our relationships and sharing LOVE with those that are in our life....One of my daughters favorite quotes is this...."In the end, all that really matters is Love....and yet, WHY is it such a difficult word for us to say???? I concur...Why is it so HARD to tell others how much we care about them, how much they mean to us, how much that we love them???? Today, let's pretend that we have only this day left on this earth....Who would you call, what will you say and find out what truly becomes important in your life....if we could only focus most of our energies on THESE  things, wouldn't every day be sweeter??? Life would be simpler??? All those chores and details of work, would be where they should be....second place...(or third, or fourth!!!)....Today I wish you love and light and peace, as you are reminded what and who are the most important pieces of your life puzzle.....Tell them, hold them and share the love!!!!!   XOXO  Pami

The changing of the seasons....

I woke up to an overcast day and a temperature dip of about 20 degress....and cannot believe how fast the seasons can change, especially when we are just getting the feel and the rythym of the lovely summer that we "were" enjoying JUST now....OK, I am talking about TIME, again....but I do feel as I get older that the passing of it seems to speed up....I do not remember feeling like thins when I was younger...feeling like I could NOT keep up with the days, the hours, and the long lists of things that I should be doing......Do we ever feel like we are on top of where we should be...that we are living out the life that we wish...that our bucket list is slowly but surely being checked off???? Today, for a few moments...take the time to write down just a few things that you really want to try and do before the end of this week, this month, this year and maybe before your next birthday....I do think that it is possible to achieve both the dreams and desires that you have for yourself and your family/work obligations, too....It is all in how you balance what is completely necessary and what you feel that you cannot live without doing....The choice is yours....What will be on your list????...Let me know and I will share with you what I hope to do in the very near future.....I don't want to be at the end of my life and regret the things that I did NOT do....I have always believed that you never regret the things that you did do, just the things that you did NOT....What can you NOT live without doing???? Do you know??? Do you need to reach deep down inside and find out???? I wish you love and light and clarity, as you walk this journey.....

XO   Pami

The First Saturday......in September.......

I am spending the day surrounded by family and loved ones....and reminiscing about all the good times that I am reminded of, today....Again, so many fond "snip-its" of pictures in my mind....I LOVE having this time to spend with the people that I love the most and sharing good food, great music and some fine wines.....and contemplating the beginning of fall and the changing of the seasons....along with all that comes the shortening of daylight and the weather getting a bit colder...As I approach the shift of TIME...(here I am again talking about TIME???? WT????)...Anyway...I am grateful for all of the beauty that is in my life and the love that surrounds me...AND, I am reminded that the seasons change and that I need to pay attention to the passing of it all.....I hope that you, too, are having a wonderful day and holiday weekend with the people who are the MOST important in your life....I believe that when you are at the end of your life, the only regrets that you truly have....are the things that you DIDN'T do and the people the you DIDN'T tell that you love so very much,,,,SO today, I hope that you do both!!!!! XO

Hugs and Love and Light...


Pami

The last Holiday Weekend of the Summer.....

I am thinking back at the wonderful family times spent together, as this summer comes to an end....Remember when we were smaller and time moved slower and we had a relaxing 3 or 4 day adventure with our loved ones???....As I watched the food network yesterday, which by the way I am addicted to, because it makes me feel ALL warm and fuzzy inside....I enjoyed seeing so many of the shows from Paula Dean to Bobby Flay, sharing family recipes and ideas for BBQing for the upcoming holiday....When was the last time that I had ALL of my family around me and we just spent some quality time together...(Sorry, I keep talking about TIME, but I do feel compelled to for some reason???)....I wonder with ALL of the modern technology, have we lost a bit of the old-fashioned way of just relaxing, slowing down and doing nothing....especially with the ones that we love??? My fondest memory, is staying at a family friends cabin in Twain Harte (on the way to Yosemite) and just swimming, playing, swinging in a hammock and watching the day just pass by, with NO agenda....Have we become a society of super-doer-achiever-can't relaxers????...that find it incredibly hard to just chill??? I know that if I EVER have quiet moments, with no "to-do" list in front of me, I feel SO VERY guilty and anxious and like I really SHOULD BE DOING something right now, or what will others think of me??? Do you ever wish that you, too, could just honor the art of doing nothing and KNOW that part of enjoying TIME, is also to practice the art of being still and really savoring the NOW????? I am making a vow, today, to get back in touch with the me, that loves to just watch the sunrise or sunset, listen to the birds sing, sit still and NOT think about anything and spend a good portion of my day without distractions, noise, music or TV in the background....I feel that this angry world that we live in, is constantly barraging us with NOISE...SO MUCH NOISE that it becomes SO hard to find the still, the quiet, our inner voice that is trying to speak to us....Share your thoughts with me....do you find it hard to be still???? What ways do you use to help live a more quiet life???? Have a wonderful, joyful and somewhat quiet day, today!!!!!!!

Love and Light

Pami

Time.....Time.....Time.....

Today, as I send heartfelt wishes to my brother and sister-in-law on the celebration of their 42nd wedding anniversary.....I am stuck by the passage of time....Where does it go??? Why does it seem to pass so quickly and what I have done with my "life-time"???? I was talking last evening with my friend and neighbor, Anna...and we were discussing exactly this....As I look back at my life, I feel as if every decade or so, my life has been a different experience that could be documented, compartmentalized and then set on my bookshelf in order, like a collection of books, regarding that period of "time"....My first decade from birth to ten, seeems relatively colored with the same soft hues....fond memories of parents, siblings, teachers all surrounding me with so much LOVE....the next decade seems like a whirlwind and "flashes" of vibrant colors and sounds, from learning to navigate through the waters of life, from that awful thing called puberty to becoming a full-fledged teenager, to high school and then onto that first day of college.....SO many activities, so much to feast upon, so many awkward moments of self-love and then self-loathing...and trying desperately to act and talk and walk like an adult....and then onto my 20's, Oh my....graduating from college and finding that first real job, searching for that special someone to share and walk through this new adventure of adulthood with and then starting a family of my own....How did that all happen so fast??? I still believe that it is an unspoken conspiracy between your parents and your in-laws and your other friends that have already stepped into the ocean of babydom...BUT, isn't it absolutely the HARDEST thing that you have ever done to this point??? and, NO, your life will never be the same without them...the happiness, the joy, the pride, the LOVE, the incredible depth of LOVE for a human being that you have actually just met, such warm colors and music filling the house now...family and comfort and a sense of...Yes...this is exactly where you are supposed to be (ahhhh)......and then your 30's come and your adorable babies become not so adorable young adults...and then some heartache, some embarassment, and then wondering if this really was a good idea in the first place, and OH BY THE WAY...what the hell happened to MY life and dreams and goals???? Followed immediately by OMG, I am now approaching my (SH!!) 40's!!!! Where did that trader of a friend TIME go????..And then one day you wake up and you ARE forty, your children are starting to become lovely young adults, they are starting to find out ALL about their own dreams and goals and what their real passion in life will be....and you realize that you do get to have your life back....and then you take a good look into the mirror...and decide ASAP that you need to start taking better care of yourself, start exercising more, eating better, drinking less, and where did those wrinkles come from....and another OMG, I am starting to look just like my mother..and WHERE DID THE TIME GO?????? AND there you are again, watching the passing of time from the sidelines and realizing that a large portion of your life has truly raced before you...And did I do the things that I truly wanted to??? Do I know who you are and what inspires you anymore???? Do I feel joy and happiness and pride as you look back on what you have accomplished....And what do I do now???? Do I need a life makeover???? Do I need to make a career change???? Do I love myself???? Do I love the person that I am sharing my life with???? Do we even know each other anymore, because we have given up SO much of ourselves to take care of those beautiful babies that have are now taller than me.....These are just a few of the thoughts that I have today, as I think about my "life-time"....How do you feel about yourself and your life, regarding the passage of TIME??????  

Hugs and light.... Pami

Today is the first day of the rest of my life....

I woke up this morning and looked out at the ocean, the light drizzle and the cloudy skies...Almost feeling a little like the view, as I grabbed my first cup of coffee...I lifted the page on my calender to reveal the first day of September...Where has this year gone and what I have done with it?? I looked anxiously at my new years resolution "List", staring at me from the first page of my datebook/journal for 2010...Have I completed even one on the list??? Am I closer to finding the answers to so many questions that I had listed??? Where am I going with my life and am I truly feeling the happiness and joy that I have so long been searching for??? I really cannot answer all of these questions, today, but I can take a good look into the mirror and decide that I am NOT going to go one step further , feeling like I am walking around in a fog, waiting for the divine to tap me on the shoulder and tell me what to do....Today I am going to stop for a few moments and realign myself....To open my eyes to the beauty of the world around me...to be present in EACH and EVERY moment, while also choosing to be the MASTER of my own life...I am the director of my own story...I can be the author, director, screen writer...I can choose the cast, the crew, the lighting and the wardrobe....I can work my magic each day to ensure that the ending is exactly how I want it to be....It is my choice, it is up to me...

Join me on this walk through the peaks and valleys....Share with me your trials and tribulations...the TRUE adventures along the way....No disguises, no touch-ups, no pretending....Just the truth, nothing but the truth....I look forward to hearing from you and to walking this marathon together!!!!!! See you on the other side!!!

Hugs and Light

Pami Sue